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I [the unknown sender of this message] just finished taking the
most amazing self_defense class, sponsored by Shandwick, and I wanted to
share some really valuable info with you before it goes out of my head.
The guy who taught the class has a female friend who was attacked last
year in the parking garage at Westport Plaza in St. Louis one night after
work and taken to an abandoned house and raped. He started a women's
group and began teaching these classes soon after. This guy is a black
belt in karate and trains twice a year with Steven Segall. He and the
others in this group interviewed a bunch of
rapists and date rapists in prison on what they look for and here
are some interesting facts:
What Attackers Look For
The number one thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or
other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed.
They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with
short hair are not common targets.
The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. The number one outfit they look
for is overalls, because many of these predators carry scissors around to
cut clothing. Overalls straps can be easily cut.
They also look for women talking on a cell phone, searching through a
purse, or doing other activities while walking, because they are off guard
and can be easily overpowered.
The time of day men are
most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the early morning, between 5
and 8:30 a.m. The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is
grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages.
Number three is public restrooms.
These men are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second
location where they don't have to worry about getting caught. Only 2
percent said they carried weapons, because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence, but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years. If you put up any kind of
a fight at all, they get discouraged, because it only takes a minute or
two for them to realize that going after you will be time-consuming. These
men said they will not pick on women who have umbrellas or other similar
objects that can be used from
a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to
get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is
to convince these guys you're not worth it.
Several defense mechanisms he taught us are:
* If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with
you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a
question, like what time is it, or make general small talk, such as “I
can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter.” Now
that you've seen his face and could identify him in a lineup, you lose
appeal as a target.
* If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you
and yell “Stop” or “Stay back!” Most of the rapists this man
talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that
she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY
target. If you carry pepper
spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him
wherever he goes), yelling “I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY” and holding it out
will be a deterrent.
* If someone grabs you, you can't beat him with strength, but you can
outsmart him. If he grabs your wrist, pull your wrist back so your hand is
in waving position (palm facing forward) and twist it toward yourself and
pull your arm away. It is
hard to hold onto wrist bones that are moving in that way. He will stumble
toward you and you stumble back, so you can use that momentum to bring the
same out and backhand him with your knuckles in the forehead, nose, or
* If you are grabbed around
the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the
elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh. HARD. One woman in a class
this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was
trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and
tore out muscle strands. The guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in
those places as hard as you can stand it. It hurts.
* After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if guy's testicles are slapped,
it is extremely painful. You might think that
you'll make him so angry he might want to hurt you more, but the
thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will
not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.
* When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and
bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on
them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure
and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your
surroundings, take someone with you if you can, and if you see any odd
behavior, don't dismiss it, but go with your instincts. You may feel a
little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really